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It is not about what you know, it is about who you know.

Most of you may find this quote familiar. This quote still holds true today. You can be a great writer but it is hard to be discovered in this competitive world if you do not know anyone who can market your talent. At first, I find it difficult to accept this.

I believe that as long as you have the talent, you can excel in your field. However, as time goes by I find that talent alone is not enough. You need to know people. You need to know the right people to help you excel in your field.

To get to know more people who can help you to get to where you want to be, you have to have a pleasant personality.

How Having A Pleasant Personality Helps

In order to convince others to help you or work with you, you must have a pleasant personality. If you are such a jerk, no one will ever want to work with you. Ask yourself, if you do not like someone, how possible is it that you will end up working with him or her? If you do not even want to work with them, don’t even mention about helping them.

A pleasant personality helps. It will ensure others will like you more. Magic happens when others like you more. They pay more attention to you and they are more likely to help you or introduce someone helpful to you. In our society, the road to success will much easier when there are many people who are willing to help you. People found jobs through their friends and discover money-making opportunities through their network. This is the power of having a great network.

How To Have A Pleasant Personality

1. Help Others

Give before you receive. Many people have the wrong concept about giving and receiving. They think that they are entitled to something and hence they always want to receive before giving. It don’t work this way. It is impossible to get results when you do not put in the effort. You don’t expect others to help you when you are not helping others.

I once read a book that stated something like this, “You don’t expect a drink vending machine to drop you a can of drink without putting in a dollar first.” Very true. One of the keys to have a pleasant personality is sincerely help others. People like you more when you are of great help or service to others.

2. Be Interested In Others

Some people may find it hard to hold a conversation with others. In fact, this is rather simple. All you need to do is to be interested in others. People are always more interested in themselves. They want to talk more about themselves rather than listen to other people’s stories.

To appear interesting to others, be interested in others and get them to talk about themselves. Others will find you interesting when you are interested in them. When you can hold an interesting conversation with others (by the way, they are doing most of the talking), they will believe that you have a rather pleasant personality.

3. Be Cheerful And Optimistic

Would you rather be with someone who can make you laugh or someone who will bore you to death with their whining and complaints? I can’t stand negative people who try to spread the pessimism virus around. Most people don’t like them too. Keep the pessimism viruses at bay and do your best to keep them to the minimum.

Cheerful and optimistic people are well liked. Their cheerfulness and optimism is contagious. When you can make others happy, they will like you more.

4. Avoid Arguments Over Small Stuffs

Shun away from arguments over trivial matters. Don’t sweat the small stuff by Richard Carlson is a great read on this topic. When you get into an argument over trivial matters with someone, you destroy all the rapport you had built with them. It takes years to build rapport with others and seconds to destroy it. Whenever you think of entering an argument over trivial matters, think twice.

5. Don’t Be A Jerk

Don’t be caught up in office politics and start a back stabbing spree. If you think others don’t know what you are talking behind their back, you are wrong. This type of information is shared easily and there may be a back stabber in your own group too.

Being a hypocrite, avoid participating in backstabbing or any other actions that can damage your reputation. It isn’t easy to build your reputation and all it takes is a moment to destroy it. Just keep this rule in mind, don’t do what you do not want others to do upon to you.

Parting Words

Your aim is to enhance your personality so that others will like you more and be more willing to cooperate with you. You will also attract more people into your life and the more people you know, the higher the chances that they can help you to achieve your goals. It is great to have a wide network as you know, it is not about what you know, it is about who you know.

Vincent
Expanding His Network

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Why Do You Need Disasters?

Most of the time, when we start to learn new things is when disaster strike. If you are eating junk food and you are still healthy, will you suddenly stop eating junk foods altogether? Most probably not.

What if the doctor say that the junk foods are causing you to have a higher risk of cardiovascular disease and you will die soon if you don’t quit eating junk food now? Your state of mind will totally different and suddenly you are so motivated to adopt a healthy lifestyle and junk foods are immediately strike out of your diet.

Human don’t embrace change, if anything is new and unfamiliar to us, our normal reaction would be to move away from it. It is only when disasters strike and we are smacked right in the face by Life then we will start to take action. In school, we only start studying after we know we are failing. In work, only when you see that your company is retrenching then you start to work doubly hard and find ways to upgrade your skills. How about praying? When do you start to pray? You start to pray doubly hard when you have unfortunate events in your life and you want a turnaround FAST.

The Most Effective Way To Learn

Success is not a good teacher. What do you normally do after you had success? You give yourself a pat on your back and celebrate. It is also common to see people reach a certain level of success and start to be complacent and complacency is a wonderful strategy for failure.

We start to learn better when things get a little rough. We normally make the most important decision after setbacks and failures. Failures are the feedback to us that hurts and we will notice it more easily and take the necessary actions to rectify it. Failure. is a good teacher that will provide us with education.

Do I need to go around looking for disaster?

No! That is not the point. You do not need to go around looking for disaster to teach you a lesson or two. When you are given a nudge by Life, take note of it and ask yourself what do you need to do to change for better or improve your current situation. When you do not take note of the nudge by Life, beware of the boulder that Life is going to throw at you.

Lessons You Learned

Life is a series of lessons. It can be painful only when you start to ignore the gentle signs that it is giving you. Ignorant is never bliss. Always be conscious about what is happening to you and around you. Are you feeling miserable everyday. Are you always broke? Are you visiting the doc every few weeks. These are the small nudges that Life had given you and it is reminding you that something in your life is not right and you must do something about it.

If you ignore the gentle nudge from Life, you will soon find that Life will throw you a bigger lesson to you and that is where the real crisis will happen. Major crisis such as facing bankruptcy or landed in a hospital bed.

Lessons are presented to you again and again until you learn your lessons. You can either take the responsibility to take charge of your life or be a victim. Take charge and learn from every event that had happened in your life. See the need for the event to happen and conquer it, so that Life does not throw you the same lessons anymore.

So are you aware of the lessons presented to you by life?

Vincent
Personal Development Blogger

**P.S** What are the lessons that are presented to you frequently that you had not solved yet? Are you taking charge of your life? Looking forward to your comment. See you in the comment section.

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