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It is not about what you know, it is about who you know.

Most of you may find this quote familiar. This quote still holds true today. You can be a great writer but it is hard to be discovered in this competitive world if you do not know anyone who can market your talent. At first, I find it difficult to accept this.

I believe that as long as you have the talent, you can excel in your field. However, as time goes by I find that talent alone is not enough. You need to know people. You need to know the right people to help you excel in your field.

To get to know more people who can help you to get to where you want to be, you have to have a pleasant personality.

How Having A Pleasant Personality Helps

In order to convince others to help you or work with you, you must have a pleasant personality. If you are such a jerk, no one will ever want to work with you. Ask yourself, if you do not like someone, how possible is it that you will end up working with him or her? If you do not even want to work with them, don’t even mention about helping them.

A pleasant personality helps. It will ensure others will like you more. Magic happens when others like you more. They pay more attention to you and they are more likely to help you or introduce someone helpful to you. In our society, the road to success will much easier when there are many people who are willing to help you. People found jobs through their friends and discover money-making opportunities through their network. This is the power of having a great network.

How To Have A Pleasant Personality

1. Help Others

Give before you receive. Many people have the wrong concept about giving and receiving. They think that they are entitled to something and hence they always want to receive before giving. It don’t work this way. It is impossible to get results when you do not put in the effort. You don’t expect others to help you when you are not helping others.

I once read a book that stated something like this, “You don’t expect a drink vending machine to drop you a can of drink without putting in a dollar first.” Very true. One of the keys to have a pleasant personality is sincerely help others. People like you more when you are of great help or service to others.

2. Be Interested In Others

Some people may find it hard to hold a conversation with others. In fact, this is rather simple. All you need to do is to be interested in others. People are always more interested in themselves. They want to talk more about themselves rather than listen to other people’s stories.

To appear interesting to others, be interested in others and get them to talk about themselves. Others will find you interesting when you are interested in them. When you can hold an interesting conversation with others (by the way, they are doing most of the talking), they will believe that you have a rather pleasant personality.

3. Be Cheerful And Optimistic

Would you rather be with someone who can make you laugh or someone who will bore you to death with their whining and complaints? I can’t stand negative people who try to spread the pessimism virus around. Most people don’t like them too. Keep the pessimism viruses at bay and do your best to keep them to the minimum.

Cheerful and optimistic people are well liked. Their cheerfulness and optimism is contagious. When you can make others happy, they will like you more.

4. Avoid Arguments Over Small Stuffs

Shun away from arguments over trivial matters. Don’t sweat the small stuff by Richard Carlson is a great read on this topic. When you get into an argument over trivial matters with someone, you destroy all the rapport you had built with them. It takes years to build rapport with others and seconds to destroy it. Whenever you think of entering an argument over trivial matters, think twice.

5. Don’t Be A Jerk

Don’t be caught up in office politics and start a back stabbing spree. If you think others don’t know what you are talking behind their back, you are wrong. This type of information is shared easily and there may be a back stabber in your own group too.

Being a hypocrite, avoid participating in backstabbing or any other actions that can damage your reputation. It isn’t easy to build your reputation and all it takes is a moment to destroy it. Just keep this rule in mind, don’t do what you do not want others to do upon to you.

Parting Words

Your aim is to enhance your personality so that others will like you more and be more willing to cooperate with you. You will also attract more people into your life and the more people you know, the higher the chances that they can help you to achieve your goals. It is great to have a wide network as you know, it is not about what you know, it is about who you know.

Vincent
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Are You Running Out Of Luck?

Have you ever met someone who seem to be more lucky than you do? You would say they are lucky to get the job, met the girl of their life or even lucky to have a winning streak in stock market and why is it happening to them and not to you?

What is the difference between them and you? Why do they seem so much luckier?

Create Your Own Luck

If you study people who seem luckier, you will notice that their success stem from making wiser choices and taking action. They basically created their own luck and make things under their control instead of leaving their life to chance.

These are the people who will always seem to be luckier and also the one who get the better things in life. Here are 10 tips to help you become one of them.

10 Tips To Help You Improve Your Luck

Believe There Are Opportunities

First of all, you must be a firm believer in there are tons of opportunities out there in this world for you to be successful in life. Once you have this belief that there are abundance, there is a higher chance that you will find the opportunities that you need compared to being a negative person thinking that there are lack of opportunities in this world.

For an example, a secretary who make lots of mistakes in her reports created her own correction fluid which turn out to be a multi million industry. She recognize her opportunity and also took the action to seize it.

Network

By networking, we are opening our world to boundless of opportunities. Lucky people are always great at networking and think about how many times joint ventures are being made after talking to strangers and getting to know them.

Awareness

People who are lucky are normally aware of their surroundings and is always looking around for opportunities to make things happen. Their awareness helps them to discover opportunities that others have missed.

Preparation Is The Key

Always be prepared. The worst thing that can happen is to miss a million dollars opportunity because you are not prepared. Always spend time in educating yourself to make sure that you are prepared to take your opportunity when it comes.

For people who are in the stock market, only those who are prepared are able to grab up stocks in this depressed market that are selling at a bargain price.

Always Take Action

Without taking action, nothing will happen in our life. Action is one of the most important aspect of  being lucky and it is also the most forgotten action. People spent time preparing themselves and only to see them moving away from opportunities when it arises.

The person who you seem as successful only became successful after they took the action to grab their opportunity. One of my friend got his own business at an age of 22 and now have a stream of passive income which is around what the average adults are earning and he is still studying for his degree. This only happen because he took action when the opportunity surfaced. So always remember to take action and do not let your opportunities slip away.

Focus On Result

When we focus on fear, it is harder to accomplish what we want to accomplish because fear weigh us down and stop our progress. It is only a matter of time when fear overwhelm us and cause us to stop everything altogether.

When we focus on result, it will be much easier to accomplish what we want to accomplish because focusing on results will make us more positive and we will start to look at opportunities instead of problems.

Leave Comfort Zone

Successful people tend to leave their comfort zone to  pursue things that will add value to their life. Leaving the comfort zone tend to help us discover new opportunities and we are likely to pick up valuable experience along the way.

They Do Not Burn The Bridges

There are times when you see people burning the bridges when they are already successful and it is definitely not recommended because we never know when we need the help of others. Always remember this, the people we had met while we are going up are the people we are going to meet when we are going down. If things really take a tumble for you and you did not burn your bridges, you will be glad that you still can find people who are still willing to help.

Ask and Offer for Help

There are people who don’t ask for help when they really need it. Lucky people ask for help when they need it and they also reciprocate when others need help. When you are helping others, you tend to build up relationship and they are more likely to help you when you need it.

Say Yes More Often

I recently watched a movie, “Yes Man” starring Jim Carrey. It was a wonderful movie and I also picked up a few lessons from the movie. Jim Carrey was told by the guru to say Yes to everything and by saying Yes to all the things, he met lots of new opportunities and also the love of his life.

We do not need to say Yes to everything in life but by saying Yes more frequently, it is more likely for us to find our lucky break.

Parting Words

There is definitely a thing call luck and that is why we are here in this world and it is also possible to enhance your luck. Follow this 10 tips and you will definitely start to feel luckier. Good luck!

Cheers

Vincent

Lucky Blogger

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You’ve been there before. It’s not like it was one thing that set you off. One little thing after another just kept piling on. Almost like they were sneaking up on you. Then before you knew it… BAM! One more thing topples
the house of cards and you feel like you just can’t take it anymore. Life is so unfair!

We all have our up days and our downer days. It’s only natural. You are not alone. Depression is fairly prevalent in the population and is on the rise.By 2020, it is predicted that Depression will be the second largest killer after heart disease.

Now that is depressing news!

It doesn’t have to be this way however. I will admit that some people have a genetic or chemical predisposition towards depression, DO need medication, and should definitely seek medical help. However, I do believe that the vast
majority of depressed people do not need medication to overcome their own depression symptoms. They just need to get a life!

I truly believe there are ways to remain positive in a sea of doubt. I believe the way to do it is to make some different lifestyle choices…

1. *Get some exercise.*

The benefits of exercise on mood have been well documented. You see, there are these really cool things called endorphins. These are produced when you get your heart rate up and they help you feel less stressed and more in control of your life. They are really neat little mood enhancers and it will benefit you greatly to start a regular exercise routine

2. *Change your diet.*

No, I am not advocating going on a diet. I am saying *change* your diet. The foods you eat really can impact your life. Some foods slow you down, some speed you up. Some make you feel good, others
don’t. Food can sometimes have almost magical properties. Experiment a little. Although it’s expensive I know sushi gives me a good feeling after I eat it. Eliminate some things, add others. Monitor the results. You can see big improvements in this area!

3. *Be social.*

Friends and family have a very important part in helping you maintain your positive attitude. If they are good people, they will be there for you when the going gets rough. Through thick and thin. A strong group of friends is often the best medicine to keep those blues away!

4. *Be active.*

When you are busy working on a project it is hard to get depressed. When you are sitting around doing nothing it’s easy to get depressed. When you are creating value and something constructive for other people or yourself to enjoy it is hard to think about how depressed you are. So get a hobby or something.

5. *Smile at the world, and the world smiles back.*

Fake it till you make it right? Even if you aren’t feeling happy right now if you start forcing yourself to act that way you will start feeling that way. It is amazing how it works. This may be the hardest step to take because it is a mental step and requires the right attitude. Its a way of thinking that believes that even though its rainy today it will be sunny tomorrow. So buck up, lift that chin up, and smile at the world. It just might smile with you.

This is a five step process that works wonders. Try it before you knock it. It has the power to change your life! And feel free to let us know some other ways you remain positive in a sea of doubt!

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This is the second part of “How Changing Your Beliefs Can Bring Your Success”. If you have not read the previous post, you can read it here.

Part 2

4. Past Results – There are things in life that you will see it as difficult or easy. If you are an experienced writer, you will say writing a book is easy and it can be done with effort or if you are an experienced plumber you will say that fixing a tap is child play.

Why do they see what they are doing as easy while it can be difficult for others? It is because they have done it before and they have the beliefs that they can do it again. Whenever you succeed at doing something, you will find that it is easier to do it the second time because you have the belief that can do it again due to your past success.

Why do so many millionaires say that making the first million is the hardest and after making their first million they still continue to churn out even more millions with ease? It is because they have the belief that they can do it again because they had done it before.

Before the birth of this blog, I have so many doubts in my mind that suspect my ability to set up a blog and have a significant amount of traffic to the site. My belief at that time was I do not have the technical skills to do it and I have zero ideas about setting up a website. I hesitated for some time and finally decided to just jump in and learn the ropes of setting up a website and blogging. Here I am with my blog and sharing personal development information with you guys. Am I confident about setting up a new blog now? Yes I do! I have now created a new belief that I am capable of setting up a self hosted blog due to the action I took and the results that I had achieved.

If you do not have past results that help to support your belief, you can roll up your sleeves and start to create them now. If you want to write a book then start writing a chapter a day. After you know you can write a chapter and you know that you are capable of doing it all over again then gradually after months of writing, you will get a book! This can be applied in any areas that you want results in. If you had achieved results and you believe that it can be done, over time it will just become a self fulfilling prophecy.

5. Creating the experience you want in the future as if it were here now – Whenever physical environment does not suggest the beliefs that you want, you can create an internal representation of what you desire in your mind to help you shape up your beliefs. Visualizing that you had already achieved your desired outcome will help you to create a new belief that you can do it. Visualizing desired outcomes will also help you to be more excited about achieve the goal.

If you are currently earning $1000 per month currently, which situation will cause you to feel more passionate and enthusiastic about waking up?

A. I am going to earn $1000 this month!

or

B. I am going to earn $10,000 this month!

The answer is obviously B!

Summarizing

We have the power to change our quality of life. If you are not happy about where you are today, you can make the choice and effort to change it. Changing your beliefs is the first step to success as where we are today is largely due to our beliefs. Let me give you an example.

A student was told that he is a bad student. If he believe that he is a failure as a student, do you think that he will try his best to excel in his studies? Probably not. He had already signed up for failure and in his mind he will be thinking why bother to work hard when he knew that he was going to fail in his studies?

What if he believe that he is an exceptional student? Will he wake up excited and passionate about his studies knowing that he can grab all those distinctions and merits. Will he tap into his inner resources and use it to the fullest potential to achieve his goals? Will he still take half hearted steps? I believe this time round, he will be excited and passionate to be able to achieve excellence in his studies.

In order to tap into our deep inner resources, we need to believe that we can achieve our desired results. This in turn will unlock our inner resources (it is powerful beyond what we can imagine) to achieve our desired results.

You may be asking, even if you had changed your beliefs into empowering one, does that mean that you are bound to be successful at all times? Probably not, there will definitely be failures along the way but if you maintain your empowering beliefs and keep on taking action, success will be found eventually.

Success breed success and keep the momentum going and having empowering beliefs is the first step towards success.

So what are your negative beliefs? List 5 of them down and replace the 5 negative beliefs with empowering beliefs today to see positive results in your life.

Cheers,

Vincent

Personal Development Blogger

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Among the 6.7 billions of people in the world, there are people who easily quit and there are people who will keep moving on and walking or running towards their goals.

Why is it some people can be successful in life and while others can only live in mediocrity.

I believe it all boils down to a word. Attitude.

Attitude is an important key to success.

Different attitudes can be found in different people. Most of the people have high expectations but they just can’t bring themselves to achieve it. Those are the people with the “just get by” attitude which put themselves into a passenger position. They want to be rich, they want the manager position and they want everything that is good yet there are no form of actions that justify their “wants.”

Attitude of successful people

Successful people are the people who are not satisfied with being mediocre. They have the “wants” and they will have an action plan and attitude to bring themselves towards it. They will climb over every obstacles that appears in their way and let nothing stop them.

Let us take a look at some key attitudes of successful people.

1. Ambitious

2. Never give up easily when met with obstacles.

3. High expectations and acceptance level for themselves.

4. Love taking actions.

So how to have an attitude that bring you success?

Luckily, attitude can be changed. You just need to put in a little more energy into attaining what you want. If you want to be traveling around the world, become rich, live in a big house or a fancy car, just go get it! You will be asking, “so how do I get what I want?” First of all…

Get into the driver seat

Do people always tell what to do and you are always listening to others for your directions in life. If you continue to stay in the passenger sit, where you are going to be is where the driver is going to. Do you think you can get to where you want if the driver isn’t you? Take charge of your life now and get into the driver seat now.

Raising your level of acceptance to your level of expectation.

You can expect a luxurious life but if your level of acceptance isn’t matching your level of expectation, you can’t get what you want. Let me state an example. If you want to earn $10,000 bucks per month, but you are comfortable with $2000 per month. Do you think you can achieve it? I don’t really think so.

If you want to earn $10,000 per month (expectation level), but you are comfortable with $2000 per month(acceptance level), you tend to linger around your acceptance level because you are comfortable with it. It is only when you bring your level of acceptance up to the level of expectation, then you will achieve your goal.

Your Goal is a MUST

Many times people set goals and do not achieve it because their goals are not a must. Many people choose to diet and they are motivated for only  the first week but in the end they just gave up. What if someone is pointing a gun at you and tell you to lose 10 kg in 16 weeks or they will shoot you on the spot. I believe that anyone can lose that 10kg (or maybe alot more just to be safe) at that time because it is a MUST for you to lost weight. We have all the necessary resources to be successful, what we need is to have a compelling reason to achieve it.

Let me share a story about the Chinese general with you

The Chinese general brought his army with him to defend against the invading enemy. His army was outnumbered by the enemy by a ratio of 4 is to 1. Upon reaching the shore, the general ordered his man to burn down all the ships. When he was questioned why he did that, he replied, “This is to ensure that our only way of leaving this island is only in victory.” By doing this, he put his men and himself on the line and cutting all possibilities of retreating. They were put in a situation that they can only win to survive and retreating is definitely not an option. The men fought as their life depends on it and ultimately won!

Put yourself on the line to achieve something. You must think of a reason to let yourself know that you can’t fail and success is the only way out.

“Human beings, by changing the attitudes of their minds, can change their outer aspects of their lives.”

William James

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I am thinking of organizing a campaign where people from all over the world share their goals publicly on this blog. By sharing our goals publicly, we have a compelling reason for us to achieve it as everyone are watching it. Please leave me a comment or contact me regarding about this campaign. If there are enough response, I will put it up on the blog.

Cheers
Vincent
Personal Development Blogger

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