What If You Can Live Your Life Over Again?

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Life

Each of us have only a single life time and how we want to live it is up to our choice. We can choose to live as a musician, an artist, a lion tamer, office worker or a police man. There are lots of choices for us and in fact, the number of choices are so great that it it is hard for us to make a decision.

Even though we are spoilt for choices, many of us tend to work in an occupation that we don’t really love. For example, our desired occupation can be a dog trainer but we are working as an accountant instead because we have a degree in accountancy or maybe both of your parents are accountants and they want you to follow in their footsteps.

Choosing a career that is not really what we want in a first place lead to many problems such as…

  • Dissatisfaction
  • Lack of fulfillment in job
  • Mediocrity

I believe many of us make the decision of choosing a career that we don’t really like because of the social pressure. It doesn’t help when our family and friends are going to be pissed at the idea of working as a dog trainer when we have an accountancy degree.

What If You Can Live Your Life Over Again?

I try my best not to ask what if questions when I want to start doing something as this will lead me to analysis paralysis but I think the “what if” question will help in this situation.

Did you ever ask yourself this question?
“What if I can live my life over again? Will I be doing this again?”

I find that this is a very useful question that can help me find out what I really want in my life and it has help me greatly to make big decisions in my life.

When I am 17, I need to choose what courses I wanted to enroll in for my Poly years (I believe it is high school in US) and I actually chose Chemical Engineering due to a lame reason which is most of my friends are choosing it.

I completed the course in 3 years time and throughout the course I only felt dissatisfaction and  I only managed to obtain just an average grade for it. It was around the time when I was sent out to work as an intern in a chemical plant, I started to regret about my choice and I knew that I wouldn’t want to work in a chemical plant for the rest of my life. (I hated the shift work)

I had learned my lesson and when it was time for my graduation, I asked myself the question, “What if I can live my life over again? Will I be doing this again?” My answer is a straight No!

The question I asked myself had helped me to make a decision to start all over again by trying to enroll for a business course(my interest) for my university while most of my friends stick on to the science courses. These are the 3 common reasons for their decision.

  • They love it
  • They hate it, but staying in the science course will ensure that they get exemptions which means a year less of studying.
  • They follow the crowd

I did the mistake of following the crowd when I am 17 and I am not going to make it again. That is why I decided that even I am not going to have any exemptions and have to study an additional year for my course, I am going to stick by my decision no matter what others say of it.

How Can You Find Your Dream Career

The only way I can think of right now is to use the trial and error method. You read books from different authors to find out who is your favourite author or listen to different music to find the genre that you love most and these are also achieved through the trial and error method. It may not be the most efficient way to find the career you really want best but it is definitely a way that will help you find out what you truly want.

To help you speed up the whole process, you can start asking yourself this question when you are in a certain career, “What if I can live my life all over again? Will I do this again?”

If you answered yes, then most probably you like what you are doing now and there is no reasons to change your career for now. But if you answered no, it is time for you to switch to another career to find what you really love to do.

Time wait for no one and instead of suffering in the wrong career choice, why not ask yourself this question and find out if what you are doing now is really what you want to be doing.

Cheers
Vincent
Personal Development Blogger

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  1. @Hi Dimitar,

    Our reality are govern by our thoughts and when we change our thinking, surprisingly, our reality changes together. 🙂

    @Hi Bonnie,

    I got to agree that all our experiences are important and it is up to us to define how useful it is.

    @Hi PennySue,

    I think our life is much more interesting because we don’t know what is waiting for us at the end of the path. What we can do is to go through some trial and error and pick up all the experience that we had along the way and gradually and ultimately find the path that truly want to take.

    Cheers
    Vincent
    Personal Development Blogger

  2. If I could live my life over again,I would do lots of things differently (if I could know what I know now)unfortunately we do not have that opportunity. So we have learned from our mistakes, we grow on this path we have chosen. Our choices in life determines our path, if we only knew what was waiting for us at the end of these chosen paths.

  3. Hi Vincent,

    Nice post 🙂 I’ve had some regrets about education too, I chose to study performing arts when I was 18 because it was something I enjoyed and I thought it would lead to the career I wanted, after a few years though I realised it wasn’t the career I wanted. But since transferring myself to a more business oriented career I have noticed many moments when the performing arts background has come in handy, like giving me good communications skills, confidence & self awareness, perhaps if I’d studied business instead I’d have more technical knowledge, but I think I’d lack some of the “soft” skills that have been very helpful in my career so far.

    I think the important thing is to keep reviewing and considering what we’ve learned from our experiences 🙂

  4. Thanks for the nice article, Vincent! It really made me think about what you said.

    About an year ago I realized that changing my life means changing my way of thinking first. Just by being more positive and thankful, my life completely turned around and I started really living it all over again. When I understood the power of my thoughts, I felt reborn.

    Change is often internal, not external. For example, many people who want more money don’t enjoy themselves when they receive it. And few of them see that the problem is in their greed, and not in how much money they currently have.

  5. @Hi Clinton,

    “I don’t want to wake up in 30 years from now and realize I wasted my life doing something I never really had a passion for” This is something that I fear too and I strive to do what I love best instead of living in other people’s standard. Great point!

    @Hi Keith,

    It does work for me and do give it a try. Remember share with us your story if it works for you. I bet the readers are going to love it. 🙂

    Cheers
    Vincent
    Personal Development Blogger

  6. I feel we get to live our life over again on a daily basis, by simply being fortuate enough to wake up and have the chance of enjoying another day.

    You mentioned trial and error – I feel the way to discover what your passion is in life is through eliminating what you don’t want. Sometimes it is easier to know what you don’t want over what you do want, especially when you are in confusion or becoming dissatisfied.

    As you said, at some stage you have to take action and when you do it is worth listening to your inner voice rather than being influenced by what others think you should do.

    There are two choices I have used personally that may help here – accept or change. Either you find a way to look at what you are doing from a different angle and start to enjoy it or you change what you are doing in order to discover what it is you would enjoy more.

    Often fear of change is the only thing holding you back and sometimes fear is little more than a thought.

    In my experience, asking questions is exactly the right thing to do – I have a phrase “Question everything and keep on questioning everything until there are no questions”

    It has worked for me.

  7. Hello Vincent. I really like this “What If?” thing. In fact I am going to start using it as a way to help myself stay on track with my personal goals and/or dreams. I think it can really work!
    Thanks!

  8. Hi Vincent,

    In that first list you should also add > Lack of money, not that it’s like that with everyone but most people who don’t like their job seem to have a higher chance of poverty than anyone.

    And I agree with what said about peer pressure and going with the crowd. People are more often out to impress instead of follow a career that suits them and that they will succeed in. One of the biggest problems is being one of the few who can slip through all the negativity and take on a career you want. In almost every school there’s people who want to go to university or take more schooling after high school. I think this is great! However, lots of people who go to collage abandon their career because they don’t like it any more. All the teachers that pumped them up about becoming a plummer didn’t know anything about being a plummer in the first place.

    I don’t want to wake up in 30 years from now and realize I wasted my life doing something I never really had a passion for. Therefor inaction will always be my worst regret. That’s why I don’t like to think of myself as cautious. Even though I am to a point. But one thing I find is that overcautious people have regrets and are only competent when it comes to the career they never really liked.

    I’m 18 and so many times people will ask. “Are you going to college for that?” My answer is usually a “maybe” because truthfully I don’t want to go to college!

    I want to congrats you on the great post once again!
    Clinton