How Changing Your Choice Of Words Can Bring You Success

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Are your words inhibiting your success in life?

How do you speak and write in your daily life? Do you know that your choice of words are important to your growth and choosing the right words can push you further in life and choosing the wrong words can affect you greatly in term of your success and personal growth?

There are billions of words out there in the world but are you conscious of your choice of words or do you even make the effort to choose the words that you write or speak? The words that you chose at the moment of speaking can determine whether you grow or put a stop to your growth.

Make an effort an listen to your choice of language. Are you using words that limit you and pass the remote control of your life to others?

Some examples like:

“He is always finding fault at me”

“The boss is a jerk for giving me so much work”

“I am just the way I am”

“I’ll try”

“He ruined my day”

“I can’t”

Had you noticed that the choice of words in the above examples can limit you cause you to be out of control of your life and it is one situation that we don’t ever want to be in. We can only grow and be successful when we are the remote control of our life is in our hands.

What if…

What if you replace the above language with language that aid you. Such as..

“Why is he always finding fault at me and what can I do to prevent this from happening.”

“I need some help here, I will seek help from my boss and discuss how can we work this out.”

“I am responsible for my own life and I can change my way if I want to.”

“I’ll do it.”

“I am not going to let him spoil my day, it is my day and I can choose to make it a great day.”

“There is going to be a way.”

Are you personally guilty of using the 2 words, “I try” too much? If your friends ask you out for a gathering, what are the chances of you attending if you say, “I’ll try to be there.” Most probably you won’t be going! What if you say, “I will be there.” I believe there is a huge surge in percentage to almost 100 percent that you will go for the gathering.

Do you see the difference when you choose the right words to use instead? By choosing the right words that you use, you immediately put the control of your life back into your hand and make any situation more favorable for you.

I will share with you a sentence by Charlie Munger which I believe is a very good example about choosing the right words to use to empower you. I will give you a quick introduction about him. Charlie Munger is Warren Buffett’s (One of the world richest man) partner and the vice chairman of Berkshire Hathaway. He always believe strongly that he got great abilities and he always speak with words of a successful man.

A group of people with Charlie Munger among them are at an event and a pianist is performing. They are listening to the great melody that the pianist is playing and one of his friends casually asked Charlie Munger whether he can play the piano and Charlie replied…

Wait a minute, if you cannot play the piano and your friend asked you whether can you play a piano, what will be your reply? 5 Seconds to think about your answer.

Charlie reply was, “I don’t know, I have never tried.”

I believe your answer for that question would be, “No, I can’t play the piano.” How about Charlie Munger? He strongly believe that he have the ability to do anything and even his words reflect it. Successful people choose the right words that empower them instead of limiting them.

Are you inspired by Charlie? Are you going to be more conscious about your choices of words after knowing how much difference it can make to your quality of life? I believe you are after reading this article.

So what are some of the negative words that you use in your daily life? How about trying to change them into words that empower you? Tell us about what changes you can make in your choice of words that will empower you and share them in the comment section. =)

Cheers
Vincent
Personal Development Blogger

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  1. i definitely agree with the principle of this article. however, if you’ve never tried to play the piano, you wont be able to play it. I dont feel that saying no in that example would be negative, just truthful..

  2. @Hi Clinton,

    First of all, I would like to thank you for your wonderful comments which really add value into the post which others can read it too.

    I got to agree that people who are using fancy words are just boosting their egos and not doing what they should be doing which is communicating. What is the use of using those fancy words and the other party don’t understand anything of what you are saying?

    Our thoughts make our words and our words make our reality. So by using words that belittle ourselves, we are placing limits on us that will cause us our success.

    Cheers
    Vincent
    Personal Development Blogger

  3. Hi Vincent!

    Your words effect both YOU and the people you communicate with. This is one of the key factors, in my opinion, in terms of THINKING success! Right a way, you can tell what type of attitude a person has, by simply listing to how they speak.

    Every day you hear so many people bashing themselves. e.g. “I could never do that” or “I guess I wont be buying that Porche after all” or “I’ll never be as successful as Donald Trump”. It’s small talk and you hear it all the time. The individual puts one more nail is his coffin simply by speaking negatively.

    I think we all slip useless and negative thoughts without noticing it. Take me the other day before writing an exam. I’d have a period where I would have positive thoughts toward going a head with it and then the rest of the time was spent bashing it. “Why do I need this anyways. Next year I won’t even remember it.” Then a few days later I decided to put a 100% in everything I do. And you know what, it’s working, gradually.

    After reading a few articles from this blog, I’m pretty sure you’ve read the book Magic of Thinking Big. I remember reading a chapter on this very topic. David Shwartz, the author of the book, explains that instead of using big or fancy words we need to use the RIGHT words. I know a few people who use fancy words(it’s obviously an ego thing), personally I think it sounds stupid. I’m much more eager to listen to a person who focuses on communicating instead of one who likes yakking off words that aren’t effective. Just for the sake of looking educated(most of the time is backfires).

    I think we need to listen to ourselves speak one day and work on correcting it the next. Our words are so important. Most people know this in the back of their minds but don’t pay enough attention to it. Even well the educated get caught blowing themselves over. I find it sad that people do this, when it could be so much easier. Such a simple adjustment could make our lives soooo much better.

    It takes time for someone who’s used to thinking negatively. Day by day they have to work on their thoughts, speech, actions and take care in what they communicate to others. Ask, “does my speech tell others that I think good of myself, or do I speak like someone with poor self esteem”

    I want to comment you on a great post! And also, I love your blog–your topics are refreshing and insightful and I can’t wait to read more. In the mean time, I have you on my RSS reader.

    Keep it up!

    Regards
    Clinton Skakun

  4. @Hi Jeremy,

    I love the sentence quoted by Yoda! Only when we say, “we will” than we are fully committed to doing something.

    @ICE,

    Great points added and I greatly believe success first come from the way you think and words will help to reinforce your successful mindset. By the way a quick introduction, ICE is a very supportive girl who is always by my side and yes, she is my dearest =)

    Cheers
    Vincent
    Personal Development Blogger

  5. Another point to note : ‘Words alone are not enough. Where our strength and determination are clear, our words need merely to convey conviction, not belligerence. If we are strong, our strength will speak for itself. If we are weak, words will be of no help.’

    Baby,
    Well Done!

  6. Hi Vincent,

    This is a great post. Probably your #1 post considering the number of comments.

    I think people underestimate the power of words. They say the pen is mightier than the sword. I’d say this gives credence to the fact that words are powerful. If you want to see powerful things happen we have to use powerful words.

    I really liked how you changed Ill try, to Ill do. So Ill end with the words of the all wise Yoda. “Do or do not, there is no try.”

    Cheers,
    Jeremy

  7. Hi Matt,

    I did a quick google on the term, Sapir-Whorf hypothesis and read it up in Wikipedia. I picked up a new term from you today and thank you very much.

    Cheers
    Vincent
    Personal Development Blogger

  8. Sounds like somebody’s just discovered what the Sapir-Whorf hypothesis is! 🙂

    That’s pretty basic: positive words = positive outlooks and negative words = negative outlooks. It’s so much more interesting to look at the value of the specific words that you use – it’s there that the most growth and personal development lies. Track what you say throughout a day, see how negative you are, strive to be a better person tomorrow.

    It reminds me of the Little Engine that Could – I think I can! I think I can!

  9. Hi everyone. Thanks for sharing your points over here in the comment section. Your comments definitely help to add value to this post which more people can benefit from it.

    @Evelyn,
    There are definitely times when we chose words that hurt others and definitely regretted it. Evelyn you had mentioned a good point for us to take note.

    @Stephen,
    “I’m not sure it’s so much the words but what they reflect. What they symbolize.”

    In this case do you mean that someone said something yet do not mean it?

    @R.Patel
    Thanks for your compliment. I will stop by and check out your site. =)

    Regards,
    Vincent
    Personal Development Blogger

  10. Choosing your words definitely does make a difference.

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  11. Thanks for clearly pointing out the power of the words we choose. When I think about it (just thinking out loud) I’m not sure it’s so much the words but what they reflect. What they symbolize.

    That said, what is everyone’s opinion on the possibility that using words that are successful and positive has the power to alter our outlook from whatever it currently might be so that it gradually entrains to match our language?

  12. When we choose to change our frame of reference to a more positive one, we also automatically use more uplifting words.

    We can choose to say words that can hurt and create damage. Or we can use words to heal, empower, entertain, educate or inspire others and ourselves. So before we utter anything reckless, let’s step back and make a conscious decision.

  13. @Hi Kok Choon,

    Successful people ask the “how” question instead of asking “what if”. Totally agree with you.

    @Hi Raymond,
    You are welcome =)

  14. Very true! Your mindset will determine your destiny. While complaining too much about other people, why not look at ourselves that will actually benefit us?

    Successful person will always ask themselves “How to accomplish” something, and will never raise a question: “What if this and that”… you won’t know until you do it!

    We need to review ourselves to be improve, we need to review our business to make more profit and if we review other people, we just make them better…!

  15. @Hi Melissa,

    Totally agree with you Melissa. We need to be more aware of what we are doing as sometimes we tend to go into auto pilot mode. =)

    @Hi Jack,

    I read the quote in a book that I pick up quite some time ago but it was etched firmly in my mind because it gives me such a powerful impression and I love it too!

    @Hi Eric,

    Eric I agree with you too. Sometimes we tend to speak negatively to ourselves such as “I can’t do this” or “I’m lazy” and the negativity tends to snow ball from there.

    Cheers
    Vincent
    Personal Development Blogger

  16. This is a great reminder to ‘watch your language’, so to speak. I find myself speaking negatively, at times, and no good ever comes out of it. Great points, Vincent! Eric.

  17. I love the Charlie Munger quote. Choosing words that empower yourself is a key way to prepare to succeed.

  18. Ahhh…so true. Words have incredible power. We need to listen to ourselves closely so that we can hear what we are projecting to the universe.

  19. Hi Raymond,

    I recently read a book that a sales man have been trying for 3 years to get a big customer to sign a contract with his company but to no avail.

    The salesman then went for a course on teaching how to interact the right way with people and he found that he had been using the wrong choice of words when he was approaching the customer.

    He than corrected his words and change his approach towards the customer and tried to persuade the customer to sign the contract.

    This time round he did it! The customer even sign up a longer term contract than he suggested.

    It was all possible because of his right choice of words and approach. We can see being tactful when dealing with people can bring us alot more success.

    Cheers
    Vincent
    Personal Development Blogger