Many people around us conform to status quo and they will tell everyone around them to be realistic. They may be doing so because this will make everyone seems “normal”.
It is easy to tell others to be realistic because being realistic means sticking to the norms and not doing anything outside of your comfort zone. Being realistic is easy but the consequences can hit you hard.
Why Be Realistic?
Ask yourself – why be realistic? Why do you want to conform to the status quo? Why do you want to fit in so badly?
Do you want to stick to your job and not travel anywhere? Do you really want to live your life as it is right now? Is there really no areas of your life you want to make improvements?
Although being realistic can help you fit into the society fast and avoid the pain of stepping into the grey area outside your comfort zone, it is also the one best way to help yourself to a slow death.
It is the death of your dreams and also the death of the real you.
Everyone has dreams and everyone wants to live their best life. It is impossible to do so if you conform to only what others expect of you.
There will be many people who will be stopped by others on their way to achieve their dreams and goals because they are told to be realistic and they actually buy into that philosophy.
But who are they to tell you to be realistic?
Why not be remarkable? Why not be the trail blazer instead of following the path of others?
Dreams are made because people choose not to conform and strive to stay on the remarkable route.
Here are some examples
- William Brothers invented the air plane
- Thomas Edison invented the light bulb
- Jeff Bezos, founder of Amazon
If these people chose to conform to the status quo, we will not be able to enjoy their wonderful inventions or the convenience that their business brought us.
You don’t have to invent anything new or start a multimillion (or even billion) dollar business to live a remarkable life.
All you need to do is to live a life that you truly want to live, a life that you can proudly tell your children or grandchildren.
To me, that in itself is being remarkable.
You don’t need to stick to the route of studying-graduating-working-marriage-retire. You can choose a life filled with goals and dreams and strive to achieve them. You can choose your own way of life and ignore the pressure from others to conform to their way of life. You have the choice. Nobody can help you to make the choice. You have the choice to live a life different from others and make your life a meaningful and remarkable one.
Let me end it with this quote from Steve Job.
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
Pump yourself up by watching this amazing speech.
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