3 Life Lessons To You… From My Life4 Comments March 6, 2012 / Posted in Personal Development
I always try to make improvements in my life and I work on learning new skills or brushing up existing skills or knowledge. My previous approach for trying to make improvement is what I call a “shotgun” approach. I try to improve myself in many areas at the same time. This usually led me to one result…
I thought I’m superhuman and when others advocate just do one thing at a time, I thought those advice must be made for weaklings. I don’t think I belong to the “one-thing-at-a-time” club and I don’t ever want to be. Where is the thrill for doing one thing at a time?
I can think of thrill all I want but reality is harsh, painful and cruel.
My “shotgun” approach of trying to tackle everything at once usually lead me to a miserable outcome call failure. Failure seems like my best friend whenever I tried the “shotgun” approach, and he always laugh and wave hello to me when I failed. It seems like he thought he have an affinity with me. (I don’t want that to happen.)
Problems With “Shotgun” Approach
The problem with the “shotgun” approach is I always spread my focus to thin and this lead to 2 results (ALWAYS)
1. Overwhelmed, hence I give up. Failure – 1, Me – 0.
2. Not focusing and giving my all, means I receive pathetic results. Failure laughed at me again. Failure- 2, Me – 0.
I think I hugged my best friend, Failure, for too many times and I think it is best that we not meet too frequent.
I decided to change my approach and kiss him goodbye.
Embracing One Thing At A Time (Hi Weakling Club, I’m Here For Application And I’m Sorry)
One of the biggest lessons I learned is that patience is a virtue. This lesson is severely underrated.
I heard “patience is a virtue” for thousands of don’t know how many times. But hearing a lesson isn’t enough because you still won’t get it or understand this way. The only way to get the lesson is to apply the lesson in your life. This is the 2nd major lesson.
My lack of patience leads me to try out the “shot gun” approach that gave me pathetic results in everything I tried.
I tried waking up early, I failed.
I tried to exercise every day, I failed.
I tried a dozen things more and I failed more.
Once I decided to embrace the virtue of patience and giving my all to improve one thing at a time, things change rapidly and the most obvious one is results. First, I list down all the things that I want to change and improve in life and I select one of them and start to work on improving them one thing at a time.
I started running until I am able to complete a marathon.
I started exercising everyday and I’m still doing it every single day.
I started to sleep early and wake up at 4 am.
Results start to happen and there isn’t any more stress and crazy situations where overwhelm feels like a huge wave slapping you at your face. When I aim to exercise every day, I don’t work on my diet, waking up early and 101 other things. I focus on the one single thing that I am working on and that is to exercise every single day. That’s all. In this way, I’m slowly making improvements in the area of my life that I choose to work on and I’m ok with going slow with one thing at a time because I know I’m getting results.
I’m sorry for thinking people who do one thing at a time are weaklings. Reality told me I’m no superhuman and, right now, I embrace the principle of doing one thing at a time, faithfully.
3 Life Lessons For You
1. Patience is a virtue
It is a good trait. It helps you to stay calm. Being patient helps you to stay sane, be aware of your surroundings and ultimately make wiser choice that leads to getting better results.
2. Embrace one thing at a time
Nothing gets done when one tries to do many things at a time. I tried and proven it myself. The principle of doing one thing at a time works for me and it can work for you too.
3. You don’t truly get the lessons (even if you read it for 1,000 times) UNLESS you apply it in your life.
I read about lesson 1 and 2 and I know them very early in my personal development journey. However, I didn’t get it until 8 years later because I didn’t apply them in my life earlier. So don’t say you know something, unless you tried and apply it into your life. Feel the difference for yourself.
That’s all, 3 life lessons for you from my life.
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