10 Anger Management Tips + 1 From Google

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Google’s Mail Goggles

So what is it about the Mail Goggles by Google? It is actually a feature in the Gmail that stop you from sending email that you will regret after thinking about it consciously. When you are going to send an email with this feature activated, you need to solve 5 arithmetic questions within the time limit before you can send it. This function inspired me to write about anger management as I found that in life, anger can be dealt with the same way.

Is your anger destroying your relationships around you and causing your quality of life to down spiral?

So what is anger? Anger is a feeling, an emotional state when you feel annoyed or you can fly into rage. What actually caused it is when you are met with scenarios that you do not like or agree with.

Anger is a normal and healthy emotion of humans. It is only when anger gets out of control, it starts to affect your work, relationships and the quality of your life.

So what are the solutions to stop you from flying into a rage and do something or said something that you would later regret?

I will share 10 anger management tips with you.

Stay cool and enjoy.

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10 Anger management tips

1. One step back – Always take a step back from situations when you feel the area is hostile. When you are angry at someone you are talking to, take a step back to remind yourself to relax and be calm. Why stepping back help? By stepping back you leave the “hostile area” mentally and allow yourself space to cool down. When you are near somebody you are arguing with, you tend to have bigger reactions that may lead to fights. Will you stand in an area where bullets are flying?

2. Deep breathing – Take 3 deep breath and focus on the breath that you exhale through your mouth. Taking deep breaths help you to stay calm and sane.

3. TIE – TIE stands for take it easy. Keep repeating to yourself to take it easy and picture the words. It would be better to incorporate with deep breathing for better results.

4. Time Out! – Arguing with someone? Is the situation getting out of hand? Most probably both of you are not too calm and in the right mind to talk about anything. Ask for a time out, take whatever time off you feel that is appropriate and bring yourself to a level where you are calm and relax before you talk about anything.

5. Exercise – Go exert yourself. Jog, swim, hit the gym or whatever exercise that you prefer. Exercising allows you to release the stress and frustration that is locked in the body. Let the steam out to ease the pressure.

6. Anger log – Keep a book on recording your anger. Find out the patterns and triggers that lead you to feel angry. Once you identify the problem, you can then find a solution.

7. Pause button – Decide an action that will be your pause button. An example would be to imagine a button on your forehead. When you are angry, press the pause button and Stop! This action will allow you time to think and make a conscious decision.

8. Avoid extreme words – Avoid words such as “always” or “never” . “They are always finding fault with me” or “They never even help me once before”. These words are mostly not true and using this words can help to self convince you and cause the situation to worsen.

9. 10 funny counts – Forget about the old fashioned  “count to 10 you are fine” talk. Use the 10 funny counts instead. When you are angry, just count( repeat after me ) “1 funny clown, 2 funny pig, 3 funny bananas, 4 funny red nose boss, 5 funny short giraffe… etc. Our brain works better with pictures, when you say something funny, you will tend to imagine it in the mind. Don’t believe me? Lets try. Don’t think of a pink elephant with black polka dots. What is in your mind?

10. Visualization – The theory behind this tip is the same as tip number 9. Visualize something funny you are angry at. Are you angry with your boss because he yelled at you for something that you didn’t do. Now look at him hard and come out with a big mental picture. Picture him fatter, balloon him up, put a pair of dorky spectacles on him, a big red nose and he kept falling over when he is yelling. Are you able to get angry at the new mental picture of your boss now? Hard to do, I believe.

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Is the picture clearer to you now?

Bonus point

You can always try Google’s method too. Angry? Solve 5 equations within a minute and see whether you are still angry by then.

Hope you like this article and the tips mentioned. You can leave a comment (or more) to share more ideas on anger management. See your comments soon.

Cheers!

Vincent

Anger Management Blogger

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15 Responses to “10 Anger Management Tips + 1 From Google”

  1. Vincent says:

    @Laura

    Thanks for your comment and it is great to see that my advice is working for you. Keep up the good work =)

    Cheers,
    Vincent

  2. laura says:

    i forgot to say it’s the best quick fix i’ve ever encountered 4 years running. whenever i feel i urgently need to stop being so angry i.e. i might jeopardize my job or my marriage i google and read how to. i’ve been through loads of counselling and cognitive theory reading i can’t put into effect in an instant or in an emergency…but this one works for me.

  3. laura says:

    hi vincent,

    so effective. it’s one of those times when my blood’s reached boiling point at my husband and i calmed down and laughed soon as i perused through your advice. thank you soooo much

  4. Vincent says:

    Hi Tom,

    You had provided us with an important point. There is always an underlying cause to anger. By getting to the root of the problem and solving it would be the first thing we need to do when we are trying to conquer our anger.

    Cheers
    Vincent
    Personal Development Blogger

  5. tom says:

    Of course these are great tactics but there is one underlying isssue.

    No matter what you do, you need to first resolve whatever issue is causing. And don’t tell me that there’s nothing because that’s horse shit.

    Seriously, either resolve it or let it go. Sure it’s not easy, but the first step is realizing you have a problem.

  6. Vincent says:

    @Hi Mehreen,

    Laughter is definitely the best medicine one can find because whenever we laugh, our brain release chemicals that make us feel good physically and emotionally. So Smile! 🙂

    Cheers
    Vincent
    Personal Development Blogger

  7. Mehreen says:

    Loved this post Vincent! =)
    liked your idea of 10 funny counts and visualization..
    laughter is ofcourse the best medicine when blood is at boiling point..

  8. Vincent says:

    Hi Evelyn,

    First of all thanks for the comment. When we laugh, our physiology is totally different from the physiology when we are angry. So it is hard to be angry and laughing at the same time. So funny counts definitely works!

    Cheers
    Vincent
    Personal Development Blogger

  9. Evelyn Lim says:

    I like your idea of using funny counts. Laughter is definitely a good way to prevent an anger blowout!!

  10. Vincent says:

    Hi Potato Chef,

    It is so true that whenever we move ourselves away from the source of our anger, things definitely get better.

    Glad to know that you like the Al Paccino video too. That is one definitely one of greatest pep talk around.

    Cheers
    Vincent
    Personal Development Blogger

  11. Potato Chef says:

    Enjoyed the article. Whenever anger put some distance and time between you and the source of your anger. Things always look better the next day.

    I watched the Al Pacino ad the other day. Very good.